Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Falling In Love with Yourself - It’s Tougher Than It Sounds

Some of us associate loving yourself as a narcissistic trait.
Being in love with one’s own self is an incomprehensible concept for some, especially those who don’t have a lot of self esteem. Because of the many instances in our lives where we are subjected to harsh criticism, we keep those statements in mind, and move about our life while judging ourselves for something others feel for us. And that is just about the most self-destructive thing you can do.
Being someone who holds oneself in high esteem is a challenge. And while many may feel that this is not the case in our millennial self-centric world, the truth is that personalities and feelings have not changed. We still feel angry, scared and depressed.

What’s the Problem with Loving One’s Self?

The issue here is that of social stigma. Although with online media prompting us to showcase ourselves in the best light, more often, this makes us lean more towards promoting our physical attractiveness, rather than our emotional and mental appeal.

In truth, it is more than what we see in the mirror that allows us to love ourselves. It is our thinking, our consideration for others that raises our level in our own eyes, and a person cannot do that if they are only thinking about their physical appearance.
Another reason why people find it difficult to love themselves is that they don’t know what that actually means.
It could be taking good care of yourself and making sure that you are healthy. It can also mean being focused on your goals and giving yourself the satisfaction of an accomplishment.
But the most favored meaning of loving oneself is being your own cheerleader, that every time you try to do anything, it is your inner voice that pushes you to greatness in every aspect of your life.
Too often, we allow our negative inner self to speak against our goals, making ourselves feel that perhaps we are way over our heads. But if we crush that voice and instead focus on the positive aspects of our being, we can bring ourselves to see our present and future in a positive light.

Learning from Others

The main thing that we can learn from the profiles of different celebrities is that we are not alone in our self-esteem issues.
For example, it was David Bowie who many times started that even with completely filled theaters. He had very low self-esteem and hid behind his obsessive writing and performing, not thinking that he was spending his life too quickly.
According to Bowie, he felt utterly inadequate, and thought that his work was the only thing of value. Had David Bowie understood his importance in the world’s eyes, perhaps we would have been awarded with even more beautiful songs than the mega hits we already have.
But an example of someone who is completely in love with themselves is that of Amy Schumer. Even if you don’t agree with her comedy, it’s not hard to admit that you wish you had the confidence she has in her abilities and self. As a box-office sweetheart, Amy Schumer says what’s on her mind, even if it isn’t accepted by the people around her. Along with her body-positive attitude, Schumer exudes a self-worth, even if she isn’t according to the hard-to-reach standards that Hollywood sets for its contenders.
This contrast between two superstar celebrity profiles (courtesy of Celebrities Galore) teaches us to know that we deserve to be loved.

The idea of loving yourself is that even if the whole world doesn’t support, “you” have to have your own back. So when others cannot be bothered to help you know your worth, you still push yourself to the limits and beyond, because you know that you are worth the effort.

Monday, September 5, 2016

Off-Spring to the Stars – Child-Rearing Lessons from Our Favorite Celebrities!

With celebrities earning millions and spending their life in luxury, many of us think that perhaps their children are just as spoilt as we expect them to be. After all, they were born with the proverbial silver spoon in their mouth, why wouldn’t they be pampered?
However, the truth is that while many of these celebrity families do live in luxury, the parents themselves try their hardest to make sure that their children stay humble and work hard. For example, take a look at David Beckham's family. While his son Brooklyn is indeed very popular on social media and can easily live his life in luxury, his father pushed him to earn his own money by working in a cafĂ©. And this is just one example of how famous parents handle their children’s upbringing.
Here, we explain just some instances of how different celebrities deal with parenthood, and what we can learn from their personality profile.

Parenting Lessons from Famous Parents

Being Careful When You Speak

While it is very tempting to simply start sprouting the four-letter word when you think your child is not looking, it is not right.
Swearing itself is an uncouth practice, and doing so in front of a child only goes to show that you don’t have the social or educational skills to handle yourself properly. In this case, it is Brad Pitt who emphasized on the importance of good language. In fact, it was because of his fatherly instincts and protective attitude that many of the actors in the movie “World War Z” refrained themselves from swearing. This was particularly because Pitt has put up a swearing jar and forced all who swore to put a dollar in it because there were children present on set.

Not being Self-Absorbed

It’s no secret that celebrities are more narcissistic than your average Joe. In many cases, it is these narcissistic people who end up competing with their own children. However, they show this competitive streak in a different way, and often become overly attached with their children so that their off-spring’s achievements reflect positively on them.
Jamie Pressly, who is the best example of a humble and supporting parent, advices that it’s crucial to listen to your child and be supportive of who they are, rather than forcing what you want on them.

Take Pride in Being a Parent

While many parents do feel a bit out-of-touch with their own selves after their children are born, many of them embrace parenthood and feel proud of their off-springs’ every little achievement. Parents like Steven Tyler and Bruce Willis who support their children’s careers and dreams always state that their children can come to them for everything and any issue.
Bruce emphasized this relation by stating that he stayed with his children for the entire first year they were born so that he’d become connected with them. This comes as no surprise since Bruce Willis’ profile even states that he loves his family life more than anything else.

Don’t Think You Know Everything

Take it from celebrity mom and all-around supermom, Thandie Newton.
Newton’s words need to be heeded by all parents who don’t listen to their children’s opinion at all. While our children may not have the worldly experience that many parents have, we sometimes forget that our children are wholly uncorrupted, and what they say may be wiser than what we believe. It is important that we hold them in the highest regard so they know that we value their opinion.

So learn these lessons from some of the world’s most famous parents, and try to give your children the importance and value that they need so they can become better and wiser adults.