Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Falling In Love with Yourself - It’s Tougher Than It Sounds

Some of us associate loving yourself as a narcissistic trait.
Being in love with one’s own self is an incomprehensible concept for some, especially those who don’t have a lot of self esteem. Because of the many instances in our lives where we are subjected to harsh criticism, we keep those statements in mind, and move about our life while judging ourselves for something others feel for us. And that is just about the most self-destructive thing you can do.
Being someone who holds oneself in high esteem is a challenge. And while many may feel that this is not the case in our millennial self-centric world, the truth is that personalities and feelings have not changed. We still feel angry, scared and depressed.

What’s the Problem with Loving One’s Self?

The issue here is that of social stigma. Although with online media prompting us to showcase ourselves in the best light, more often, this makes us lean more towards promoting our physical attractiveness, rather than our emotional and mental appeal.

In truth, it is more than what we see in the mirror that allows us to love ourselves. It is our thinking, our consideration for others that raises our level in our own eyes, and a person cannot do that if they are only thinking about their physical appearance.
Another reason why people find it difficult to love themselves is that they don’t know what that actually means.
It could be taking good care of yourself and making sure that you are healthy. It can also mean being focused on your goals and giving yourself the satisfaction of an accomplishment.
But the most favored meaning of loving oneself is being your own cheerleader, that every time you try to do anything, it is your inner voice that pushes you to greatness in every aspect of your life.
Too often, we allow our negative inner self to speak against our goals, making ourselves feel that perhaps we are way over our heads. But if we crush that voice and instead focus on the positive aspects of our being, we can bring ourselves to see our present and future in a positive light.

Learning from Others

The main thing that we can learn from the profiles of different celebrities is that we are not alone in our self-esteem issues.
For example, it was David Bowie who many times started that even with completely filled theaters. He had very low self-esteem and hid behind his obsessive writing and performing, not thinking that he was spending his life too quickly.
According to Bowie, he felt utterly inadequate, and thought that his work was the only thing of value. Had David Bowie understood his importance in the world’s eyes, perhaps we would have been awarded with even more beautiful songs than the mega hits we already have.
But an example of someone who is completely in love with themselves is that of Amy Schumer. Even if you don’t agree with her comedy, it’s not hard to admit that you wish you had the confidence she has in her abilities and self. As a box-office sweetheart, Amy Schumer says what’s on her mind, even if it isn’t accepted by the people around her. Along with her body-positive attitude, Schumer exudes a self-worth, even if she isn’t according to the hard-to-reach standards that Hollywood sets for its contenders.
This contrast between two superstar celebrity profiles (courtesy of Celebrities Galore) teaches us to know that we deserve to be loved.

The idea of loving yourself is that even if the whole world doesn’t support, “you” have to have your own back. So when others cannot be bothered to help you know your worth, you still push yourself to the limits and beyond, because you know that you are worth the effort.

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