Some of us associate loving yourself as a
narcissistic trait.
Being in love with one’s own self
is an incomprehensible concept for some, especially those who don’t have a lot
of self esteem. Because of the many instances in our lives where we are
subjected to harsh criticism, we keep those statements in mind, and move about
our life while judging ourselves for something others feel for us. And that is
just about the most self-destructive thing you can do.
Being someone who holds oneself
in high esteem is a challenge. And while many may feel that this is not the
case in our millennial self-centric world, the truth is that personalities and
feelings have not changed. We still feel angry, scared and depressed.
What’s the Problem with Loving One’s Self?
The issue here is that of social
stigma. Although with online media prompting us to showcase ourselves in the
best light, more often, this makes us lean more towards promoting our physical
attractiveness, rather than our emotional and mental appeal.
In
truth, it is more than what we see in the mirror that allows us to love ourselves.
It is our thinking, our consideration for others that raises our level in our
own eyes, and a person cannot do that if they are only thinking about their
physical appearance.
Another reason why people find it
difficult to love themselves is that they don’t know what that actually means.
It could be taking good care of
yourself and making sure that you are healthy. It can also mean being focused
on your goals and giving yourself the satisfaction of an accomplishment.
But the most favored meaning of
loving oneself is being your own cheerleader, that every time you try to do
anything, it is your inner voice that pushes you to greatness in every aspect
of your life.
Too often, we allow our negative
inner self to speak against our goals, making ourselves feel that perhaps we
are way over our heads. But if we crush that voice and instead focus on the
positive aspects of our being, we can bring ourselves to see our present and
future in a positive light.
Learning
from Others
The main thing that we can learn
from the profiles of different celebrities is that we are not alone in our
self-esteem issues.
For example, it was David
Bowie who many times started that even with completely filled theaters. He
had very low self-esteem and hid behind his obsessive writing and performing,
not thinking that he was spending his life too quickly.
According to Bowie, he felt
utterly inadequate, and thought that his work was the only thing of value. Had
David Bowie understood his importance in the world’s eyes, perhaps we would
have been awarded with even more beautiful songs than the mega hits we already
have.
But an example of someone who is
completely in love with themselves is that of Amy Schumer. Even if you don’t
agree with her comedy, it’s not hard to admit that you wish you had the
confidence she has in her abilities and self. As a box-office sweetheart, Amy
Schumer says what’s on her mind, even if it isn’t accepted by the people around
her. Along with her body-positive attitude, Schumer exudes a self-worth, even
if she isn’t according to the hard-to-reach standards that Hollywood sets for
its contenders.
This contrast between two
superstar celebrity profiles (courtesy of Celebrities Galore) teaches us to
know that we deserve to be loved.
The idea of loving yourself is
that even if the whole world doesn’t support, “you” have to have your own back.
So when others cannot be bothered to help you know your worth, you still push
yourself to the limits and beyond, because you know that you are worth the
effort.
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